Locs no more!

A few weeks after the break-up I sat on the couch and just decided to take down my locs and give myself a haircut (note to self never do that again!!!) my hair went from waistlength locs to shoulderlength naps (in some places others shorter caus I can't cut hair). My locs where somehow connected to my ex, he was there when I made the decision to loc, he washed them for me whenever I was not able too, played in them before going to sleep. I guess you can say that his vibez where just left inside every babyloc. Maybe a part of taking them down also had to do with change, somehow women feel the need to change their appearence after a break-up. Another reason for taking them down was the fact that I miss grandmother to the extreme, I know that she loves me no matter what but the fact that I was locing my hair was a bit frowned apon by her. My grandmother is ready to let go of this earthly world and somehow this seems like a tribute to the woman that thought me so much and that helped me to grow into the strong woman I am simply by being able to follow the example she sat. I will loc again that is the only thing that is certain when and how are still Q's to be answered.

Now that I am a loose nap again the whole dealin with my nappy hair issue is back *sigh* I catch myself still hiding behind my headwrap and want to be able to take it off and just walk outside but the threshold is too high. Going outside without my headwrap is like screaming to the world I am single!!! and giving men around me "permission" to approach when I am in no way ready to be approached! I need to get over that fear and just take it off and deal with the reality that men will approach but I am in control and have every right to say no politely.

Life is an endless struggle full of frustrations and challenges, but eventually you find a hair stylist you like. ~Author Unknown

How can I control my life when I can't control my hair? ~Author Unknown

Love, light and blessings,

Chayil

Just a little loc update...

It's a little over a month and my babies are doing great. No signs of budding yet put patience is a virtue, I've been told :-P


I wonder why I didn't start this journey sooner! I absolutely love this spritz and go lifestyle. It has even effected my moods for the better I feel sexy even when I wake up! Those bad hair mornings are over! Now when dh tries to cuddle in the morning I don't kiss and fix hair with the other hand LOL I can firmly grab him with both ;-) Okay TMI

This is a pic of my progress so far:


Can you see the progress around my waist and under my bra! I am so glad those underbra lovehandles are disappearing


Blessings,
Chayil

My loc journey has finally begun!

Yesterday I travelled to Rotterdam to have my hair twisted to start my locs. It took about 6 hours but I am very pleased about the results. About 2 inches where cut off caus I did not like the ends.

This is the endresult:

Locs

I have always been facinated by locs and the people that wear them. The thing that facinates me most is the non combing and brushing lifestyle. I know I was born to have locs, I have a great dislike for combs, brushes or any other stylingtool, I hate blow dryers and chemicals and I hate people touching my head LOL I started twisting my head for locs on 2 occasions but both times the perfectionist in me took over and made me loose them out again. I want beautiful cultivated locs that I am able to wear in a bun in twists or cornrows depending on my mood. To achieve that good partings are essential and I am lousy at parting my own hair. My cousin (who just started her locs herself) found a friend of hers willing to help me start my locs! I am so exited but scared at the same time. But I know I am ready for locs, in my dreams I always have locs and when I wear twists I am most happy (till it's time to loose them again that is) so I am as ready as I will ever be to start with my journey!

29th of september will be D-day! I have done so much research in the last week that I am starting to feel like a loc-expert, now let's pray that once I have my locs I can apply all my new found knowledge!

This is my natural hair (dripping) wet no products (don't mind my panties :-o ):

These are some ladies with locs that I admire:

Blessings!

Hair we go...

My hair is natural and I love it! One downside I just have no clue how to handle it when I am sick! I had a relaxer 3x times in my life and all those times are engraved in my memory! First relaxer: mom was too tired of combing all that hair (waistlenght really thick braids!) and brought me to a homesalon to relax. I was 15 at the time and never having a relax and all girlfriends were exited I was getting one I figured it was a good thing. It wasn't, it really hurt me and while relaxing the hairdresser send out her daughter for a few more pots of relaxer she had never delt with that much hair before! My scalp was severely damaged I had large wounds and my hair was horrible! Bonestraight and it smelled really burned!!! I demanded it would be cut cause the monster was now over my butt! She cut it to waistlength and everyone went gaga over my hair! The second time: I was starting college (21) and had a 1 yr old so I decided to make it less of a hassle relaxing would be the answer (how could I have forgotten the last experience!!!) S.O.S.* pain pain pain! Third time (25): you'd think the previous desasters would have made me think twice when a girlfriend told me that she could make my hair more manageble by doing a mild relaxer (LADIES THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A MILD RELAXER!) The kiddie relaxer was on for 2 minutes when I screamed out in pain! My scalp was once again burned and my hair had gotten bonestraight in those 2 minutes!!! That was the last time that the firecream touched my head and it will stay that way for the rest of my life!

I decided to let my hair grow to the length it was when I was a little girl. I figured if my mom took the time and energy to take care of my hair with love I should at least be able to do the same! Before the beginning of this year I would hide my uncombed hair underneath headwraps, I promised myself not to do this again. I had a few embarrassing experiences in the hospital having to take off the headwrap to lay still for MRI's and just laying there ashamed of the uncombed mess on my head.

The length is now a lil over my bra-strap and so far so good, the only time I have real problems is when I'm in too much pain to comb it. I make a few big braids and cover it with a headwrap at least when the wrap comes off the hair is nicely tamed in the braids ;-)

I am still looking for products to use to tame my hair make it less frizzy and easier to comb out. Till I have found the right products I stick to the natural stuff: Sheabutter to twist and braid, e.v. olive oil to condition and african black soap to wash.

Any suggestions productwise would be very welcome!

Blessings,

Chayil